What do You Need?
Online Demigods and “Leaders”?
Stress Management:
Every once in a while we get bogged down in life everyday with details. There seems to be an endless amount of things to do, things to keep track of, and general shit to “manage”. You’ll have temporary sprints of non-habit forming motivation that stop and start your progress. A lot of this can turn out to be really soul-crushing when it happens often and you don’t seem to make any forward progress.
So many things make a difference on how we show up that it could be many things or one things that totally de-rails your progress.
- Projects that have no end in site at work.
- Managing diet and workouts while still having time to relax.
There’s a self help guru millionaire for every problem you have out there.
Someone to tell you how they’ve done it. The real question is are you willing to let them lead you? This is the key question you have to answer. Workplace leadership and every other kind of leadership is always “accepted” in some fashion. Don’t like your boss? You can find another job or another department. Don’t like an elected official? Move or campaign and vote for someone else.
Look at some of the online personalities that come across your Facebook feed. Posting pictures of their lives and making themselves out to be the “model” you should strive to emulate. Looking at these things can be discouraging sometimes and that’s why it’s good to take it all in with a skeptical perspective. “What makes these people so special?” You may ask….well that’s the question isn’t it? Sometimes don’t you want to question someone’s motives for wanting to be “the guy” or “personality” everyone follows? What kind of person is that really? Someone who might think that at some point everyone should do what they’re doing because “they’re doing great things…”. They may in fact be doing great things but posting it on social media means that you want….or even need everyone to know what you’re doing is great. Something inside is ego-driven that needs the world to know. They might be posting about the kids and wife…..they might be posting about their workout….they might be posting a foreboding picture of themselves with weights or getting physical. With so many feeds and areas for you to be influenced by, it really helps to stand back and think “why is this person doing all this?” What are they really trying to say to people who see it? What altruistic value do they think they are providing me with? Reality will set in and you’ll find that there is no other reason for posting anything on social media other than “look at me…I’m doing great things and you should be too.” Social media is good for providing some low level of accountability. Telling people you’re going to do something in your life and asking them to check in with you is a good tactic. Additionally, if you are building a brand or a business of course it an insanely great way to get yourself and products out there in front of people.
Leadership is needed.
However….the majority of the work gets done behind the scenes, in the early morning hours and the late nights when no one is watching. Most of the great athletes and business people have done it this way. People like this have very seldom cared who is watching and have single minded goals that motivate and discipline them. The point is that it pays to be a skeptic….especially when people are advertising their worthiness to lead you.
They can only lead you if you give them permission….guard it wisely and with be discriminating like you would against rotten food. One more thing…take more pride in the “doing” instead of the “posting of the doing”.